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Posted by Arpeggio, 15 June 2012 · 275 views

My real mom (not Chris’ mom who I always blog about) was acting strange last Friday, and asking for money to pay her electric bill after I just handed over money to cover it days before… Since I’m her power of attorney, a pawn shop called and said she was pawning lots of her items, but when I called her back she didn’t answer. I continued to call until Sunday night and called the police to check on her  but they couldn’t enter her home legally without a landlord’s permission. I finally got in touch with him on Tuesday morning, and had him open her front door. I thought she was probably away with friends, or didn’t pay her phone bill this month, but instead I found her slumped in her chair holding the phone, breathing shallowly.

She’s been in ICU since, and nothing is improving. The doctor told me she overdosed on pain pills and meth and I just didn’t find her in time. She has pneumonia, inhaling vomit, an infection in her lungs, failing kidnies, and brain swelling from lack of oxygen. At first, they said she was improving, but a CAT scan later, they weren’t so sure. After talking to the neurologist, he said that he is certain she’s either brain dead or suffered massive damage to the brain, but we can only wait to see when the swelling goes down. Right now, she’s comatose, unresponsive, and on life support. Chances are, she’s completely gone.

This is a hard time for me, but I’m hanging on, so don’t be afraid to talk to me like normal. I said if her heart fails for any reason, do not resuscitate, but I’m not making any decisions until I’m positive she’s not there at all.




I have had to deal with this from the medical side and as part of the family decision when it was close family members. It isn't easy, but if she doesn't improve or show brain function, you have to face the almost certainity that she's gone and the body left behind isn't her. That realization is one of the worst you can come to. You're right, this is a very hard time for you and I'm glad you shared that with us. No matter what happens, you're doing all that you can. :hug:
I'm so sorry to hear :hug:

I've been in similar situations with my own mum over the years, but never to quite this extent. We've always managed to get to her in time, but something like this happening has always been one of our greatest fears.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time :hug:
I think you will hear a lot of condolences and heartfelt prayers from all of us, even the more sarcastic among us.

It's a sad thing to see a family member with medical problems and this stuff must seem so surreal. I hope you can get through this and you don't fall into an abyss of depression. Heck, maybe a miracle can happen and your mom will get better and be better after this experience on the edge.

Hope you make it through all this and if you need to, maybe talk to some of us if things are really bothering you.

Hope the best for you
I believe in miracles, Lacey. Hope you will see one soon. Posted Image
Words don't express my feelings for you and your family :hug:

Hang in there Lacey
:hug: Lacey. Can't really add anything that was already said above.
Hold on Lacey we are all behind you, supporting you :hug:
I'm so sorry about your mum Lacey :hug:
Hoping for the best :hug:
So sorry man. Remember to step away from it once in a while - go hang with people, rent movies, go for walks, and remember the good parts of her life if you can.
Lacey sorry to hear this sad news. Words fail to see adequate at times like these. I hope you find the strength to find a way through this hard time, sending you a massive Yettie Hug and I'll keep my fingers crossed you for your mom.
Lacey, I am 'de coeur' with you and I hope your courage will help you overcome these difficult times.
I can't really add anything more that was already said above.
Maybe talking with all of us could help ?
just hugs.

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