My question is, how long was your longest relationship? I am not trying to invade any privacy, but I am curious about the average length of time a relationship lasts.
My longest relationship was one that I wonder why lasted. It lasted for 5 years and ended on a bad note. We've only just began to talk again. So, the average so far is about 5 years.

Well, I've only had one relationship.
It lasted about 5 months, I was 16...it was a mistake we, were good as friends. But I got to go to prom twice...
It was with a girl, I've never had a boyfriend.
We still talk some, but she has changed a lot...

I guess I pulled the average down 2y7mo

Wow, that sucks big. At least you got to go to the prom.
And every one changes, grows or just drifts away. It's a part of life, unfortunatly. I'm glad you two do talk though.

Mine lasted 17 years and would likely still be going strong today, nearly 16 years later, were it not for the death of my partner in a hurricane.

I'm very sorry about your lose and hope that one day you can find another to spend your days with, dear. But I'm glad that you had a wonderful 17 years together.

He's not lost. He's dead. And I'm still mad as hell about it cause it was stupid, selfish and pointless. I wasn't looking for sympathy. It was just a simple statement of fact. But I know you meant well, Rose. So thanks.

Meh! Never been in a relationship....

Some day you will dear. Don't worry, you will some day.

I sure hope so..

I'm going to let the poke at my euphemism to slide for now. And as it is, it's not sympathy or pity, but rather empathy. I know how it feels to have a loved one die, so, I know where ya coming from.
Live life to the fullest and have lots of fun.



You will. You're a sweet guy and I'm sure once you find your own way of life, you'll find someone to be with you.

Thanks...

I only speak the truth, but you're welcome.

Both of my relationships lasted for just over two years each. The first one ended in death also just over 23 years ago. The other one ended when he started dating a girl.

Ouch! What a jerk!

But we still remain friends to this day.

That is great! I know, I would have a hard time even talking to the guy if he did something like that to me. But yeah, if he sat down and had a 'talk', discussing his reasons and everything, I will consider.

I am sure that the guy in question did that. Took you in confidence before dating that girl?

Wow, what a way to end a relationship there. But I am glad that you two can still talk to each other now.

well mine lasted f0or about a 3weeks-1month if I exclude the one I'm in right now(which is going to be a month Friday!!!)... I was 20 at the time... what happenned the guy transferred to toronto for a new job so since it was new and all... we ended it... we lost contact afterwards which kinda sucks but we ended it in good terms at least

Mine longest was six and a half years and it ended badly. But we did love each other very much while we were together and of course I still love him even though he broke my ever-loving heart and I had to break up with him.

Yay!!! One month mark. Congrats. Most of my relationships never made it past that point.
Anyways, it's good that you two managed to end it on good terms, but it sucks that you did lose contact with each other. I hope this relationship between you and your boy works out for both of you.



Wow, you beat out my record, but Gary still holds the record right now.
Anyways, that bites that he broke your heart. I hate it when relationships end badly, I really do. Though, I have to say, I hope that you find/found a wonderful person to date now. Good luck with your life. Blessings all around.

I've only ever been in one relationship. It started in mid-1991 and is still going strong.

Before I met him, I hadn't had any sort of a "relationship" beyond friendship. I never even dated in junior high or high school. Wouldn't have known what to do if I had, anyway.

Yeah it was a pretty awful breakup. For a while, I just dug myself into a hole and didn't want to get out of it. Then, I changed up my life, I went to law school, moved to Michigan. I've dated, haven't found anyone yet, maybe partially because I am a bit scared, that I'll make the same mistake again. But I do date, I have some very special friends and I'm doing well. Thanks for your blessings though, they are much appreciated.

Aww! That is so sweet!
Let's do the math here. 1991 to 2001, 10 years, add another...6 or 7, so, about 16 to 17 years together. Congratulations to you two. I hope that you guys have a long and happy life together.

My first and longest relationship lasted for about six months in the seventh grade. The night she broke up with me remains the happiest night of my life lmfao. I had only one other relationship that lasted for just the summer between my sophomore and junior years of high school. We ended it because she was working so much that we never saw each other, but we're still good friends. Our only obstacle now is that she started dating a boy from West Point (military school in West Point, NY) who asked her to marry him. He is FAR from being good enough for her, and that fact has nothing to do with him being in the military.

We'll be celebrating our 19th anniversary in June, and will have been together 20 years at that point.

*giggles* That's kinda sweet in an odd way. I do hope that things work out for her and for your friendship with her.



Aww! That is so sweet. I'm glad that the two of you are still together after so long. You now have the spot of longest relationship together! Yayness.

.....Going on 25 yrs.

Since I've only had friends with benies, I cannot answer.

Didn't take long for someone to take my title.

Twenty nine and a half years...only three years, three months and fifteen days to go.

Sharon

1952 - 2008 : 56 years till now. And it's still going on .
I think I'm the winner .
old Bob

That just makes me madder for me to think it would have been 33 years this year. I'm honestly very happy for the rest of you with really long-term relationships.

We've just had our 17th anniversary, so if you include the period of dating before we got married, we're coming up to twenty years.

In that period there have been two times it could've ended. The first was before we had children, and it was a combination of stress from work and just generally drifting apart. We realised what was happening in time and we made a number of decisions to correct them. If we both hadn't agreed to that, the relationship would have probably ended shortly after. The second was only a few years, and that's when I came out to my wife. We've gotten past that point and things are going strong. I honestly can't imagine what life would be like if our relationship ended.

You truly inspire a great deal of respect for you with me, Graeme. To recognize that you are gay, that you still love your wife, come out to her, and work through whatever issues had to come up as a result of that is absolutely amazing. I doubt I could be that strong. I'm sure it's given you a much happier and healthier life and relationship.

Seriously, it has. I'm no longer hiding things, so I'm a lot happier with myself, to the extent that other people commented on the fact (that is, people who didn't know what my wife and I had just gone through -- wouldn't wish that on anyone). We communicate a lot more now as a consequence and that also helps our relationship. Honesty is a key component of a health relationship and I wasn't being honest with her earlier. We still have our challenges, but, yes, we both agree that we have a happier and healthier relationship now than we had before.

And to put things back into perspective, the last set of statistics I saw indicated that over 90% of relationships who have gone through what my wife and I have gone through have failed.... I'm lucky and I know it.

Our top four is as follows:
Old bob: 56 years
Sat: 29 years
Benji: 25 years
Sono: 23 years

Wow! Congrats to you guys for the long relationships. I'm happy for you four. I really am.



Like Gary said, I'm glad that you could do that. It sounds like those times helped strengthen your relationship with your wife. I hope that you two have many, many more years. I'm very happy that such a sweety like you haves some one in their life.

I would say around 3 months 1 week. Well, I had only one. Many here know. He went to England and we sort of lost contact. Let's say distance relationship wasn't ok for us.

The only sad thing is that we haven't talked about it. For some closure. *sigh*

Take care,
Ieshwar

Well, that sucks. I'm sorry that you havne't been able to talk about it. And I hope that any future relationship works out for you.

Is there any reason why you can't initiate contact and seek the closure you need? I mean, even if it's via IM or something I'm sure it's got to be better than nothing at all.

Actually, it's 20 for me, not 23. I think that might still land me in the top four, though.

Hi Rose,
thanks for your congrats
A long time of joys as well as up and down periods. Often we had to fight, but always for the best. We sometimes almost separated, but the reasons (and the feelings) to stay together were always stronger as the reasons to fight. From the beginning we were a team, going on through "vents et marées" (winds and tides), steering the helm together.Now the Sea is more calm as it was before. Storms are gone, but, who knows, we are still ready .
Old Bob

Oh no. I hope your partner didn't look at GA and say, "Hey, you can't even remember how long we've been together!"

Okay, my bad! I miss typed. Oopsies? Sorry Sono.

Old bob: 56 years
Sat: 29 years
Benji: 25 years
Sono: 20 years



All good relationships have their ups and downs, but I'm glad that you and he could get through it. Again, I hope you have many more years together.



Can blame me for that oopsies. I've fixed it now. *snickers*

Methinks we might need a new Secretary to properly record these things. It's an important position Ms. Strailo so pay more attention please.

0 months and 0 days.

What a waste of a 1000th post...

............

A bit less than a month.


Congrats!

Yes, yes. I blame the fact that I was day dreaming at the time...




You used your 1000th post on this thread? *tear* I'm so honored.

Would you like me to cast a spell that'll stop the daydreaming?

Officially for me, my longest relationship was a year and a few months, tho now that guy is now my best friend so it's still all good and I'm glad for that