QUOTE (steph291 @ June 17 2008, 02:35 PM)

Well, you know, society does hold double standards for women. If a woman is involved in a relationship, it practically expected that she's not sleeping around. And we understand from both of Julie and Joe, that they consider themselves to be in a committed relationship, regardless of the fact that they're having problems. Now, Cody does not consider himself in a committed relationship, and since the story is written in a way that we do not empathize with Jonathan, then well, we don't care that Cody's sleeping around... well, we care, because it's unhealthy, but not in the context of Jonathan. Jonathan's kinda like this black box that Cody takes out an steps on every once and a while.
I think this was the part that we were confused on... in this part, he's talking about Jacob, rt?
... which I think it kinda weird, because according to Jacob, Cody left him high and dry...
Agreed that it does, and it's one of the things I bitterly oppose.
I think I'd have reacted the same to any cheating character. Infidelity is infidelity in my book, and I agree with the Shadowy one that if Joe had strayed, he'd have come off as damaged goods, just as Julie has.
Jonathon... Hrmmm. I have mixed feelings there. If Cody led him to beleive it's a monogamous relationship (and Jonathon did seem to have that impression) then that is a negative for Cody, though IMHO mitigated by his psychological issues a little, and a little more by Jonathon being kind of negative himself). I think I may have expressed some concerns regarding Cody's reputation in this regard to His Shadowyness early in the story.
Now here's an interesting conundrum; now that Julie has cheated, what if Joe strays? IMHO, turnabout is fair play, BUT, what if Joe strays without knowing that Julie has? In effect, he's done the exact same thing as she did IMHO if he does that.
QUOTE (shadowgod @ June 19 2008, 09:12 AM)

hrmm... I am interested in this Jonathan as black box analogy. It makes Cody sound like a prick, and granted the way he treats Jonathan may be prickish, I don't think he sets out to do it on purpose, I think it is just a safe guard so he won't be hurt again.
And yeah that double standard in our society sucks. I however used it to my best ability. Joe would loose allot of credibility if he stepped out first. That said, it is sad how relationships decay, and it usually happens without notice. One day your sailing along the Bay and everything couldn't be more perfect. Then before you know it what seemed like it could go forever, slowly ebbs away.
I particularly don't find fault in either of them over their actions. Even though they both know their relationship is done, they don't want to admit it to the other, for fear of hurt feelings and broken promises. Sadly I had to show Julie as the baddy this go round, but whose mind wandered first?
Ahhh... yes that was Jacob he was referring to, yet another wonderful case of he said/ he said I guess. hrmm how do I best describe the two differing opinions. I guess Landon Pigg summed it up in a lyric. "Our love didn't die, it just never had a chance to grow."
Cody may have never called, but Jacob never went back to the school, so each see abandonment in their own right. Plus Cody is also dealing with the fact that he never appreciated what was there until it was good and gone.
Hrmmm... A wandering
mind? Sorry, I don't think that can compare with wandering, errrm, other parts.

HOWEVER, was that wandering mind a factor in the breakup? Seems to me it is, though subconscious.
Regarding Julie, one thing that made her look good IMHO (or at least, less bad) was that she felt guilt.
Cody indeed never called Jacob (until much later, anyway). Cody basically let Jacob take the fallout from the "incident", so Jacob IMHO has by far the lessor burden of responsibility and blame here. Cody, while he did the right thing and didn't sell Jacob out to the PI, also didn't tell Jacob that a PI was poking around. That has long puzzled me, but perhaps it's explained by lingering resentment, at some level, towards Jacob?
It isn't surprising that each of them seem to have their own "versions" of what actually happened. Indeed, IMHO it would be surprising if they didn't.