Hi all,

I was listening to the radio and a classic Tragically Hip song was on: He's Thirty Eight Years Old, Never Kissed A Girl.

This got me to thinking, have you ever gone all the way with a person of the opposite sex?

I tried to be inclusive in the poll as I realize some of out members are GLBT and straight. Also i realize some people falling in all the categories listed may have never gone all the way with either their own or the opposite sex.

Myself....In my early teen years, when I didn't know what I was, I did have a couple of 'girlfriends' who we made it as far as oral sex, but I have never had full intercourse with a woman. I'm not sure what base that would be (and I'm really confused now that Kevin introduced 'Shortstop' in Buy Me a Drink). I don't have any urge to see what this is like, but I'm curious if anyone else feels if they missed out on anything?

Anyways, curious to hear what you have to say.

For those who know me from my posts, blogs and comments since more than 2 years, i suppose it will be easy to guess my vote .
But I have again a translation problem :
The expression Wildone used ("made it to home with the opposite sex?") ? Does it mean you had to live "home" with him or her ? Or does it mean you did it yourself ( like in "homemade") ?
And what about a "threesome" with a girl and a guy ? In which category to put it in ?
Old Bob

I think he meant full fledged intercourse as in "home run" or "all the way". Those might be expressions used only in the US. I think the expressions are the same regardless of gender combinations or number of participants.

ewwwww, breeder sex.

Next you'll be asking about trailer parks.

Don't forget, James, that I wouldn't have my two boys if I didn't do breeder sex But it's not for everyone

third base with a girl when i was thirteen.

i was such a prepubescent pimp.

Old Bob, it's an analogy to American baseball. So you have 1st, 2nd, and 3rd bases and then home run.

I can't believe there's a wikipedia entry for practically everything!

Never done it. Not even a date. Not even a kiss. Not even a good old sex.

I'm pure that way.

Good grief! I would never have thought of checking Wikipedia for that. Thanks.

Sure thing.

Well I couldn't let everyone get too complacent in their understanding of the bases. For those not athletically oriented the shortstop stands between second and third base


Anyway, unfortunately I haven't even gotten on the field when it comes to the opposite sex. Not only haven't I batted, I'm not even up on deck yet

Actually, I do regret this. Not to be vulgar or share TMI, but I'm very much open to the idea of 'experimenting' if the right girl and situation present themselves. In fact, I may even let her get her hands on my pop fly



-Kevin

*gasp* A girl??? Playing with Kevin's pogo stick??? I just can't picture it... partly because I could never look Kevin in the eye if I did LOL.

I have kissed two girls who are not family. I have received [expletive deleted] from a guy (third base). That's the extent of my sex life.

"Gotten to home"? You mean sex? Have I ever had sex with a girl? Well the answer, is private.

Jesus... I guess I was extremely, um, eager. I had 'full fledged intercourse' with a willing 17-year-old member of the opposite sex when I was 15. In the back seat of a 1962 Dodge Dart. In my mother's driveway. So I guess I was not only eager, but athletic and suicidal.

Having experienced the charms of both, I have to say that sex with one gender made me appreciate sex with the other, and vice versa. So many emotions and sensations in common, yet different acts entirely.

I definitely consider myself gay. I don't know if I would ever want to have any kind of sexual relations with a woman. I really like men. I could possibly go there in a threesome, but that is questionable. I never have and probably never would. I used to be more open to it when I was "bi". However, I realized a while back that I'm gay and just hadn't completely accepted it. It took me 5 years.

Sorry Old Bob, I guess I should have explained 'rounding the bases' a bit better for our foreign members



Okay jamessavik, have you ever scored a home run in a trailer park?



I didn't want to exclude our 'breeders' in this poll



Hey, same age as me



Wow Steph, I didn't even think to look there either . Now who is going to write Wikipedia and let them know they missed out on shortstop? Oh Kevin.....

Now I hope your referring to the opposite sex only



Would that be on a pop fly or when your fly pops? I don't know if I regret it, but sometimes I just wonder. Hmmmm



I respect your honesty Robbie , I really hadn't done too much more at your age either.



I respect that answer too



That would most definitly be my curiousity. Not that I think I will try to find out, but I wonder if it makes you a better lover ?



I can totally relate to that Tiger. Back when I told myself I was Bi, I just couldn't really see myself with a girl. As far as the threesome goes I would probably be more willing to try two males: one girl, than visa versa .

Thanks for your effort to answer my "silly" questions. I was just a way to tease Wildone about his poll .
But now when I read all the posts, and even what Wikipedia write about the baseball analogy, I find the pool very interesting. Maybe I will once tell more about my experiences . But for now I have too much to remember .

You are welcome, of course. I feel that I should point out that the baseball analogy is very appropriate here in the US since baseball is the "national pastime". There's one you didn't see in Wikipedia.

Duh. I've never let an opposite sex corrupt my pure gay mind and urges.


I almost spat my hotdog all over my PC screen reading that. (No, it's not a double entendre.)

*starts laughing*

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

*breathes*

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

*back to eating my ham sandwich*

I'm on par with Jack Frost. Never kissed a girl, been on a date, or had sex, unfortunately this same statement can also be used for men in my life. I'm a complete and total virgin.

Interestingly, the latest edition of the DNA magazine in Australia as the results of a sex survey (not scientific, so take the results with a grain of salt).

It reported that 47.3% of the respondents admited to having has sex with a woman.

It also reported that 18.1% (I think) of males in the 18-21 age range said they were virgins.

There were also a lot of other results, but I can't remember them (I only flicked through the magazine at the local Border's store).

Graeme, I'm definitely not surprised about that. First of all, there are still so many who are in denial. Others are just curious and want to try it just to see what it's like. I happen to think there is a higher percentage of virgins in the gay community than the hetero community. I don't know for sure though. I'm not sure if there has been any research on that particular subject.

I suspect you're right, Tim. It usually takes so long for gay people to work out their sexuality, come out, and start dating that - I would think - they often don't start dating and having sex until an older age. For example, I think most straight people have their first boyfriend/girlfriend much younger than the average gay person has his/her first boyfriend/girlfriend.

On the bright side this trend seems to be decreasing as GLBT youth come out at a younger and younger age, face less stigma, and accept and embrace their sexuality earlier!

You're right about the changing trend. Still, there are a lot of youths that have some difficulties. I suspect that the heteros will always lose their virginity at an lower age on average. I could be wrong though.

Bisexual...No and No...

I have not been all the way with a guy, let alone a gal...

Yup...I am the good old....Vuuuurgeeen....at almost 18, that too...



BeaStKid

I originally said "the answers private" because I honestly couldnt be sure. But now I am. Though I am gay in my more . . . manic states I have been known to be sexual with members of both sexes. So its a yes.

For my part, it's not that I didn't want to,, it simply didn't happen. Oh well.

Lol, what a poll. I'm straight so the opposite sex, I make it home with David a few times a month. (Too much information I know) "eeewww Breeder sex" has been mentioned...


As far as making it home with someone from the same sex I haven't done that. I've kissed girls, but eh. I'm too appreciative of the male form.

Join the club.

In all seriousness, men are just too damn irresistable for my taste. There's an extremely rare occasion that I find a woman attractive, but they will never compare to men.

I have never gone all the way with a girl, only kissed one once, long time ago...

LOL, for some reason that reminded me of that Katy Perry Song, "I Kissed A Girl And I Liked It"

If/when I ever experiment with a girl I plan on telling my friends in exactly that way

(well, assuming I do like it )





One thing I've notice about guys (Ok, I've noticed more than one thing) is that I have a stronger reaction to them in general. For example there are many guys I find really HOT. There are many guys I'm neutral about (or neutral swaying slightly favourably or negatively). There are many guys I unfortunately find horribly unattractive.

With women I'm much more neutral overall. There are a few girls I find really hot. Nearly all in the middle range. There are a few girls I find horribly unattractive.

Thus, there are actually many more men that I'd under no circumstances ever want to be with than women. However there are many more men that I'd definitely really like to be with.

I just think this is interesting because I get the impression that most gay males would almost always rather be with a male than a female. If we're talking about two 'unattractive' people I'd probably rather go with the female honestly. If we're talking about two 'attractive' people then I'd definitely go with the male.



That's just my subjective taste, what I find unattractive other people might find really HOT, so I'm not trying to be judgmental.

I really want to find me a cute little tomboyish girl to experiment with. I think it'd be fun. Thing is, the only girls I'm ever attracted to seem to always be lesbians. Irony?

That's nothing that a couple of surgeries and hormones cannot fix.

LOL! Me too, Jamie!

I wonder what's up with that!?

.....Reminds me of the 'brown' girl I brought home many years ago, no nothing happened, she got spooked over her ex, thought he was stalking her. Took all the gist of the night out of it for me.

As with Kevin, I get a strong gut feeling to attractive men. I can think, Oh this girl is nice-looking, but rarely do I stare at them the way I find myself staring at men. It's like the way my eyes kept getting drawn to certain paintings in a gallery.

On the other hand, because I believe that sex can be an expression of love as well as a consummation of lust, I believe that a man have sex with a woman -- and enjoy it, and find her beautiful, etc. -- and still be "gay."

(At the same time, that kind of undermines the meaning of "gay"... Any thoughts?)

Interestingly I think I look at women that way a lot, although I've rarely wanted to do more than just look at them and -- hmm -- drool? lol. I don't think I've ever wanted to have sex with a woman, though I kissed a girl and liked it (haha) -- once.

I do look at men too, but if I don't know what they're like to talk to they're not as interesting, while I can look at a beautiful woman and just think of her looks and not her potential as a lover.



Well, I'm straight, but I think you're right. I don't think it'd be impossible that I'd have sex with a woman and find it as rewarding as I do with most men, and that I'd fancy her etc (although that is very far from my mind right now) but I think I'd still be pretty much straight, since that is the basic mindset that I have -- that of a straight woman.