Okay, i dont really know how to start this. Well i guess my problem is that i put other people and what they want before my own things, and i want to know if any of you have any advice on how to change that. Right now I'm having the ulimate test of this for me, hurt the one i love or hurt myself. And im leaning towards hurting myself right now, i can't hurt the person, he means too much to me. I just need some advice, cuz as you know im only 14 and dont really know too much about this kind of stuff. Anything will be appreciated.

-Bry

You sound like me when i was two years younger, I was the same, i either kept helping the one i loved and in the process slowly hurt myself more and more. *not self inflicted* as for trying to turn it off, thats willpower,

in my experience theres not much you can do which may not seem helpful. you have to practise to put yourself first sometimes. but that factor of your personality can't leave you without it changing you completly. hurting yourself can sometimes seem preferable to hurting someone else. but think aobut the long run and how your going to be when your older.. it could potentially ruin you.

take everything i say lightly or not it's your choice. and i hope things work out for you. truly.

- matty.