Posted 12 February 2012 - 01:43 PM
How did you first come to terms with this? Were you one to shun the idea, or did you just know who you were?
What age did you finally realize you were who you were?
I knew I was bi-sexual by the age of around 12. I kind of shunned the idea as a phase of self exploration. But as I grew into my later years; I came to realize that what I felt was who I was and there was no denying the facts of what I took preference to.
I never told my father or mother, so no one basically knows in my family. That’s by person choice, not because I believe they will chastise me, but for my own comfort ability I suppose.
Care to share your story?
Posted 12 February 2012 - 02:44 PM
Not long after that is when I had my first gay experience with another boy. Talk about amazing. It almost felt like I had "arrived at my destination".
I told my mom when I was 15, and she totally accepted me. We cried, we laughed, we bonded. I will never forget that day; it was a defining moment in my life.
I got my first real six-string
Bought it at the five-and-dime
Played it till my fingers bled
Was the Summer of '69
BOWLING FOR SOUP
(yeah, yeah, I know they didn't write it!)
Posted 12 February 2012 - 04:24 PM
Took me until summer last year to actually come out and tell people, although that was how I planned it. My family won't react well at all, and I needed to make sure I'd be financially independent, finish uni etc etc before letting the cat out of the bag. I've date girls before, although quite a few of my close friends weren't really that surprised when I told them
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Posted 12 February 2012 - 04:27 PM
Nowhere in this time have I been attracted to females sexually.
Posted 12 February 2012 - 05:48 PM
I probably first realized I like boys and did something that I really liked when I was six.
Then I continued on knowing that I liked boys and tried to fit that into my life without being discovered. I didn't know the word 'gay' but I did know that not all my friends felt the same, so probably a lot of anguish over 'was I normal'.
In the early teens I started a large collection of gay porn mags (yes, sadly the internets weren't invented by Dan Quayle yet ) The funny thing is that every couple of years all the mags would end up in a dumpster behind some mall or store. I would decide that I wasn't gay. Then a week later would find me buying another magazine.
I probably totally accepted I was gay and unable to change it by the time I was 15/16 but totally kept it to myself Then in Uni I started taking risks and experimenting more and more.
Do I have regrets, yes. Am I disappointed in my evolution, no.
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Posted 12 February 2012 - 06:09 PM
I'd like to think I know who I am, the next step is just figuring out what it means to me and where I'm going to take it, because after-all it's really the things we do with ourselves that define our lives in a much more significant way.
Posted 12 February 2012 - 06:59 PM
So, aged thirteen, I watched Dodgeball--you know, the film with Vince Vaughn--and I thought it was the most incredible thing that the female 'love interest' could just announce at the end of the film that she was bisexual, make out with her girlfriend on camera, and all the other characters would just shrug and be like "Huh... Okay." I was so inspired by how easy it looked that I came out to my parents that night. Obviously it was nothing like it was in the movie, but the end result hasn't been terrible
Posted 12 February 2012 - 07:35 PM
Posted 12 February 2012 - 07:47 PM
So a bunch of years of not dating happened for various reasons and by the time I was ready to try a relationship again I figured "what the hell, might as well try it with a guy" and eventually met my boyfriend and we've been together for more than 4 years and counting Even if we broke up though I can't see myself ever dating a girl again. Being with a guy is just so much better in every way for me that I'd never be happy with a girl.
As for coming out, I didn't do that until about two years ago and I did it in an email to my mom while I was 480 miles away visiting my boyfriend that basically said "you know that girl I've been going out to Ohio to see for the past few years? Well, she's actually a guy. Tell dad ok?" They both took it perfectly fine. Well, my mom cried but she said it was because she felt awful that I didn't feel like I could tell her before then. They love my boyfriend and everything's all puppies and rainbows as far as my sexuality goes.
Posted 12 February 2012 - 08:44 PM
For the gay part, I was around 13. By then my family had moved to an even smaller town in South Carolina. I was very sheltered. John Ritter's character on Three's Company was the first time I was exposed to the concept of what it meant to be gay. So then I started thinking. "This is weird. I should have been born a guy, but if I had been, I'd be gay." That scared me. I thought I was looking for ways to hate myself. Why couldn't I just be what I appeared to be - a straight girl?
It would be my late 20s before I got my head around it all and basically came out to everyone I knew. A sex change is pretty obvious so you come out whether you want to or not.
Posted 12 February 2012 - 08:55 PM
I live two separate lives essentially now. When I'm at college 400 miles and 6 hours away, I'm open about my sexual preference to all my friends and they know who I am. When I'm back home in the sticks around those types of people and ones I knew from high school, they only know me as a straight guy.
Posted 12 February 2012 - 11:40 PM