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Yeah, Time To Grow Up


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When I first got my current job teaching, I decided this was going to be an ultimatum year. I had decided that if I didn't like teaching at this new school within the first couple months, I was going to leave education for good and sell my soul to corporate America for a bigger paycheck. My college background isn't formally in education, but my work experience at various teaching/mentoring jobs before was enough to get me in the door to teach temporarily. I liked doing it, but wasn't really sure if I could see myself doing it long term. To make a long story kinda short, my first job teaching was in first grade in a very rough part of West Philadelphia. I taught both the school day and extended school day (7:30am-6pm), which was exhausting but paid really well. My entire life during the work week was nothing but going to work, going to the gym, and sleeping. As a 22 year old with all that responsibility and stress, I turned to partying and sex to relieve the pressure. Despite the sub-par working conditions, long days, and general craziness of working in an inner-city school, I loved what I did, loved my kids, and loved the people I worked with. A month before the end of the school year, I was notified my position was being reduced to hourly, part time. I felt stabbed in the back, and lost a lot of my motivation.

 

That school year ended, and I went unemployed for the whole summer. I got really depressed, lonely, and again turned to partying and sex to give me some sense of being useful for something. I hit rock bottom when, on August 15th, 2015, my bank account was near zero. I was too prideful to ask my parents for money, and had only a loaf of bread, peanut butter, and jelly in the fridge. Instead of using my last $30 to go grocery shopping, I decided it would be better spent on a night at the club and bathhouse forgetting about the fact I felt totally useless. I woke up that next morning brutally hung over with somebody in my bed who I had no recollection of. I lived on PB&J sandwiches until I scrapped enough money together to buy real food again. I found a Teaching Assistant job, but we were basically nothing more then glorified babysitters to high-needs, mentally disturbed children. It was a huge pay cut and I wasn't much of a teacher at all. It was a long year where I basically just worked for a paycheck.

 

I hated it and decided to give myself one more year to figure out what I wanted to do. The only job I was really qualified for that didn't pay entry level, crap wages, was still education. I came upon a teaching opening at one of the top schools in the city, and almost didn't apply because I thought I had no chance. It is one of those schools where it is very rare to even have an opening, and when they do, they get flooded with applications from qualified people. I decided to give it a shot. To my surprise, I got the interview, and in an event that shocked me beyond words, they offered me the position. It was like a miracle. I was just happy to get a good paying job again, and planned to use it as a year where I could figure out what I wanted to going forward. I was ready to sell my soul to an office cubicle for a fat paycheck.

 

But things started to change. As I began to actually teach again, I started to remember why I loved teaching in the first place, and why I love working with kids on a daily basis. I remembered why teaching was such an important role, and how much of a difference one could make for kids who desperately needed it in the city. In just a matter of months, I had gone from being completely ready to jump ship to corporate America, to starting to look at Masters in Education programs so I could make teaching my career. I decided to apply to a lot of programs I knew I could get into, and a few that I had little chance of getting into. My grades in undergrad weren't bad, but they certainly weren't stellar either, and I thought that would hurt me a lot. But luckily for me, I have solid work experience in education, and got a letter of recommendation from one of the most respected principals in the city. To my surprise, I ended up getting into my reach school, and will be starting my Master's in the fall.

 

I won't lie, I'm nervous as hell about all of this. I'll be working full time still, and going to grad school at night. My life is basically going to be consumed by those two things. It's also nerve-wracking because by doing a masters in this, I am basically committing myself to this as a career for the next 25-30 years. I wrote about this previously, but I fiercely value my independence, my lack of firm roots in anything, and my somewhat libertine/hedonistic lifestyle. A lot of that is going to be sacrificed on the Alter of Adulthood, but it is basically now or never. I can't be the person I am now forever, so it's time to begin that metamorphosis (or whatever you want to call it).

 

I intend to live it up for the next 5 months as sort of a 'last hurrah'. Since I have summers off, I'm going to go spend a few months traveling through East Asia. Shanghai, Beijing, Guangzhou, Bangkok, and Pattya. In my head, I'm sort of billing it as the last trip of my care-free twenties. We shall see what the coming years bring.

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The best teachers are those who love it and work tirelessly. I think you definitely could be one. Enjoy your travel this summer, but be careful Matt. There are friends here rooting for you and your success.

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Want an Asian traveling companion, who is fed up with his life of monotony and longs for adventure, intrigue, and suspense that he had in his early 20's :D

 

We could be like Hirschfeld and Ling :o

 

Matt, I know the feeling, I like to think of myself as a well traveled soul, I've been in the halls of power, help make laws, help break laws, fought for what I believed was right and defend things I disagree with personally, and lived a middle class quiet existence.

 

I am nearing 30, my life is long from being over, but I can feel the age of responsibility now on my back, too.

 

My best advice, don't just stick to one area if you want to expand your horizon, if you like teaching, why not attempt adult training instead of childhood education. It's not just physical therapy, there's people and schools out there that teaches disabled people how to live without eyes, ears, and limbs in normal workplaces. Some of it is technical education with new equipment/software, other is cognitive education with advanced techniques like using vibration or mental associations with concepts.

 

You have a lot to offer the world, don't forget that Matt.

 

Your friend and Fellow New Englander,

 

WL

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I envy you, both the meaningless sex and now a positive career avenue. You have seen both side of the coin. And you are a better man for it. I like your libertine/hedonistic/self-independence-above-all tone. Will keep a look out for your future adventures. Enjoy asia. Why no India on your list? We don't hate gays as much people think. Especially whiteies we adore. :P And be careful of STDs and Diarrhoea. Good luck. :)

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I taught 7th, 8th and 9th grade math and science for several years before marriage and kids drove me into a better paying corporate job which lasted 30 years. I really loved teaching  but wasn't able to take the vow of poverty that teaching required. My BS was in math and physical science through the College of Education. This gave me teaching credentials and a lot of specific professional smarts. Like you, I decided that a master's degree would be helpful and used my veteran's benefits to get an MS in Mathematics. This worked out well for me both in teaching and later in corporate work as a computer programmer and software development..

 

A couple of observations. A Masters degree is a masters degree. Unless you chose a career path in Education that requires specific coursework, a Masters in a more technical area, be it Education, Science, Math or English is an indication that you are bright and hard working.and will open a lot of doors for you.. If specific Education courses become useful, you can always take them as electives or as coursework towards a second Masters degree or as work towards a Doctorate. No education is ever a waste of time.

 

As a young man you may change your career a number of times before you find the thing that is the best fit for you. Do not limit yourself. You are single and therefore quite flexible regarding what you do and where you live. Be willing to stretch your comfort zone. Live is full of surprises, many of them pleasant. Focus on activities that build you up as a person and allow you to feel good about yourself. Good luck.

Nick

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Just came across your blog. Interesting story with a very bizarre parallel. I have a son almost eaxctly you age. He is a qualified bilingual (french /english) pre school ( age4-6) teacher. After teaching from age 20 to 25 he chucked it in because of the parents. Loved the children, but being the only male pre school teacher he was hit on more than he really cared. He had 5 years of literally bumming about wandering through NZ, Vietnam and Cambodia. Then at age 30 he turned up in Darwin. He was at rock bottom. 12 months later, he has a girl friend, he is back teaching, he has really got his act together and importantly is happy. Perhaps its what happens in your 30s now?

All the best for the future. Do visit Bali. Touristy, but an amazing culture.

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I'm 31 and still stuck in a minimum wage job, with no real clue about what I want to do next despite my massively indebted college education.

 

The thing I've come to realize, at least for me, is that there's no real timeline for "adulthood". Do you want. See what feels right. Don't listen to other people's input on what you should be doing. That's a real big difference from what I thought when I was in my mid-20's like you are now.

 

Is it kind of embarrassing when I serve old college or high school friends? Absolutely. But all you can really do is forge the path that feels right, even if it's not what people think you should be doing.

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